I am 74 years old. When I was a young man, I read that the NSW police commissioner considered people like me to be the most vile of human beings just because of something I could not change.
Despite being a respected high school teacher, admired by students, respected by parents, I had a secret that could not be divulged. Police made me nervous although I have only had 2 minor speeding infringements all my life. Dating girls was embarrassing and uncomfortable. I had my first same sex relationship in my 30's and it did not last due to my hangups. Today I read in the NZ newspapers about a police cadet who proposed to his same-sex partner today at the end of his graduation and the police commissioner was one of the first to congratulate him.https://www.odt.co.nz/news/national/cops-same-sex-proposal-grand-gesture
I need to pinch myself that it can be true. It brings tears to my eyes but also regrets that it is too late for me. I still cannot be open with my best mates who are straight although I have had confidential chats with some of the women in my social group and know that my sexuality is common knowledge, so the guys must know.
I once told a young man (late 20's) that I did not go into a room and say "Hi, I am gay" he replied "I do".
I want young gay people to be proud of their sexuality and not have to hide it like I did. If it upsets some of you too bad.